I had a few goals this year which revolved around arranging my schedule to align with my values. In order to see through this success I spent a lot of time offilne to give everything a solid college try. I’ve learned a lot. Specifically, I know intimately what it’s like to have your heart break one million times over.
Quite recently I stumbled upon this podcast episode which put into words some of my thoughts about this year (and the previous four years) and have highlighted portions below:
Highlights and notes
Rise of loneliness and loss of community
We are being over-stimulated and surrounding constantly by things which make us happy. This makes it easy for us to shut other people out. Mark Manson theorizes this gave birth to “outrage culture”.1 We became calcified to welcoming new ideas and this makes us unlikely to create the relationships to get out of the loneliness.
Happiness is found in self-confrontation and discomfort
We all need challenges: mental or physical. This aligns with my experience with resilience and self-efficacy. “Life is not about getting rid of your problems, it’s trying to get better problems.”
The Pursuit of Happyness and choosing the right director for it
“Americans can’t see what the American Dream actually is.”
The illusion of logic
We think we all make logical decisions but the majority of our problems stem from our emotional issues. The ‘feeling brain’ is driving if you’re not self-aware that you can control your experience. If you can’t get yourself to work-out, it’s not that you don’t have the right training plan: you have an emotional problem.
“Discipline equals freedom.”
It’s okay to be heartbroken over all the minor and major disappointments of your life. It’s likely a sign that you are moving in the right direction… just make sure you’re not stuck admiring the heartbreaks. Leaving the rest to Dolly,
You better stop whining, pining
Get your dreams in line
And then just shine, design, refine
Until they come true
↩ 1 If you're interested in this topic, I recommend reading "The Coddling of the American Mind," by Jonathan Heidt.