Sandberg’s book sucks. Let’s just start there. The industry is unfair and the odds are stacked against you. Asking you to over-deliver while the industry is under-delivering reeks of privilege and undermines your contribution.
All that being said, you’re still going to have to meet me halfway.
I manage a team of Designers, I taught Design for two years, I speak at schools, and I’m partly responsible for who is hired onto our team. A large portion of the Designers I see/teach/manage are female… we can probably guess why. I’ve spoken to a lot of you and there’s something eerily similar about all these conversations.
You're not taking credit for what is actually happening.
Self-doubt is healthy in doses but be careful what story you are telling yourself. Self-doubt is a mechanism to help you gauge what’s real not to over-exaggerate anxieties. Self-doubt is, “Hmm, I should think about this a little.” not, “I am terrible at this.” This is many steps too far in the wrong direction.
I ask of you, and these are simply suggestions, to meet me halfway:
This shit is cray and I know it’s hard… we can work on changing the culture together. Until then, meet me halfway: do not shrink who you are.
See you around,